How To Make Your Husband Feel Loved: 5 Simple Phrases

He’s your dream guy and just like you he needs admiration. But how do you make your husband feel loved? Here are some subtle but right words to say to your loved ones.

There are many articles written about what a wife needs to be happy but we rarely talk about what to do to make your husband feel loved.

It’s not that husbands aren’t important. It’s just that the old saying “Happy wife happy family” is very important to men. The proverb is accurate so they try to do what they need to do to keep their families happy.

One of the things they do is ignore their own needs and make little demands of their wives. And doing so in the long run can lead to their own unhappiness and resentment and can lead to real trouble in the marriage.

So ladies it’s time to learn 5 simple phrases to make your husband feel loved so you can use them to keep your marriage happy.
How to Make Your Husband Feel Loved and Respected: 5 Subtle Ways

1. Thank you.

Our moms are always very busy when we are raising kids. Not just kid stuff. We are also involved in work fundraisers and other school events that require a lot of time away from our families. When we left our husbands had to pick up the pieces.

I remember meeting her husband and their three children at the fall fair I organized with a friend. The kids were young and difficult to manage and he looked tired. I asked him if anyone had said “thank you”. He shook his head.

I thought about it many times. I know thanking our husbands for his help seems like something we shouldn’t be doing. No one is thanking us after all. And our husbands often don’t do things the way we want them to which can be very frustrating so It’s hard to appreciate them.

It is very important to recognize what your husband is doing to support you. Why? Because everyone wants recognition for their efforts even if those efforts may not be what you want.

So the next time you need to go out your husband will cover for you thank him. If he does what you asked him to do (or even something you didn’t ask him to do – even if you’d rather have him do something else) thank him. if he buys you a birthday present Thank him even if it’s something you don’t like!

Think how much you love it when someone says thank you! Use this simple phrase to make your husband feel loved.

2. “I love you.”

So many husbands and wives stop saying “I love you”. It’s not always because they don’t love each other anymore but because they start taking each other for granted. “I don’t have to tell her/him that I love him – he/she knows.” But I do Can tell you the recipe for disaster.

I remember when both my ex and I were struggling. We still say “I love you” when we hang up in the morning or say goodbye. One day I asked him not to. I said I wanted to save these words for the special time between us and not use them by rote.

And he agreed. But he was not happy about it.

Our marriage was struggling but my ex-husband needed to hear that I still loved him. He needed to hear that, no matter how hard things got, that I still had love for him. Not hearing it was devastating to him.

Of course, he didn’t tell me that and a few years later he left. And one of the reasons he did, he told me, was because we ‘didn’t love each other anymore.’

So, make sure your husband knows that you love him. It’s very, very important that he knows.

3. You are hot.

I am sure that this won’t be a surprise to you but, for men, sex is very important. And, unfortunately, as married lives get crazy, sex is often the first thing that falls by the wayside. It can be very hard on a couple and especially hard on men.

And, as a result, to help them deal with this absence, ‘you are hot’ is one of those phrases that will make your husband feel loved. Why? Because they will know that, even if you aren’t having very much sex, you desire him.

And being desired, for many men, can be as important as actually having sex.

For many men, as they age, they worry about being desirable. Social media has played some pretty serious mind games with us as far as physical beauty and that can make men very insecure. Also, sex has been redefined by the porn industry, something that makes men and women, alike, feel inadequate.

As a result, it is important that your husband knows that you desire him. I am sure that you would like to hear that phrase from him, even though you haven’t taken a shower in three days because of the baby.

4. Go have fun (and mean it).

Ok, be honest, wives. How many times have you told your husband that it was ok for him to go out and do something outside of the household but secretly been resentful that they were doing so and are somewhat passive aggressive about it?

When my kids, who were born 20 months apart, were very young, my husband decided to set a goal of running the New York Marathon. An admirable goal and one that required a lot of effort. And a lot of training.

As a result, not only did he work long hours but he also spent a lot of time running. Specifically, not at home with me and the kids but running. And I was not happy.

While I did tell him how I felt, I didn’t tell him the extent of it. I didn’t want to be unsupportive so I quietly simmered with resentment. As a result, our marriage suffered in a big way.

I wish that I had been able to embrace the things that he wanted to do instead of feel resentment for them. I wish that I had been able to honestly say ‘go have fun’ and be happy that he was doing whatever he was doing.

So, if you find that you don’t support your husband’s activities outside of the family, I would encourage you to dig deep and find a way to encourage him to do things and mean it.

I know it’s hard and that you are tired but we all need to recharge our batteries and letting him do so will make your husband feel loved and that will only improve your marriage in the long run!

5. I am proud of you!

The last word you can use to make your husband feel loved is that you are proud of him.

Like “I love you,” men and women can be somewhat complacent when acknowledging their partner’s accomplishments. Again they think they don’t have to say anything because they believe their partner knows how they feel.

Unfortunately the opposite is true – most people especially men need to hear that they are proud of themselves.

For many men their behavior is based on achievement. While women thrive on emotional connection for many men achievement is the thing that makes them feel good about themselves. And it feels really good to be recognized by their people for their achievements.

Conversely one of the worst things you can tell your husband is that he does something terribly wrong especially if he does it well but not the way you want it to.

Of course providing feedback to your partners is important if you want to do things differently but not laugh at them. Do it in a positive and supportive way so he hears your voice and does things the way you want them to do next time.

If and when he does something different make sure you tell him how proud you are of him!

Knowing 5 simple phrases that make your husband feel loved is the key to keeping your marriage strong.

It’s easy for most men to stay happy and using these phrases on a regular basis will go a long way.

Tell them you appreciate them Tell them you love them and desire them Tell them you are proud of them and praise them for their accomplishments.

I guess all of this is what you want to hear. So try it on your husband and see if you start hearing them!

You can do this! You’ll be glad you did.

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